Listen, being nice is like the bare minimum for any decent human being. So yeah, we should all endeavor to be nice, all the time, to everyone, and then ameliorate from there.
I mean, it’s basically how life rolls; show people respect and courtesy just like you would wish them to extend the same to you.
In the same breath, being a nice dude who compliments women without a stupid “I want to devour you’ smirk on his face, doesn’t ask for nudes and is a ‘feminist’ is cool. But do not expect a standing ovation for it. In fact, it won’t earn you the lady V.
Nope. Not even a little bit.
Women are drawn to shitty dudes; why, I do not know. You will find her crying over John who hasn’t called her in a week, and the longest 15 minutes of her life was spent waiting for a text back from him.
He bails on her often but she still clings on him like glue just because he’s built with that flawless, Elba-Meets-Omari Hardwick contour and he’s undoubtedly high-in-demand. Plus, he says all the right things. He’s all wrong for her, but she wants him, nonetheless.
But the same woman will not notice that Martin calls her twice in a day and when she does, she will find it ‘needy and annoying.’ She will toss and turn and sulk because John has blue ticked her yet Martin jams her inbox with messages that she often elects to ignore. Don’t forget the flowers he brought her, he sent her lunch to her office and tolerates her snobbery. Yet, he is never an option.
In the intricate world of women, guys like Martin don’t stand a chance. The truth is, nice guys don’t offer women a challenge. They are boring, agreeable and easily attained. Women barely break a sweat with them. Such men do not offer women the chase. They lack the hard-to-get appeal and are always there, wrapped around a woman’s finger. Yes, it’s true: Women want the chase, they ache for the struggle and they thirst for the wonder.
So guys, ignore these women and make them cry; ignore them. Choke them with your sadism and you will find them hanging onto your every word, be at your beck and call and at your convenience. Apparently, if you’re the nice guy, your existence will go unnoticed.
Forget their hypocritical chimes of, “I just want a nice guy,” women are wired to follow trouble and complex situations. Women are known to say one thing, yet mean another. They have been living in paradoxes where “I’m fine,” means “nothing is fine,” and the obvious answer is “do whatever you want to do.”
A nice guy dashes into a woman’s life and she immediately leads locks him into the friend zone. However, when she stumbles upon a douche-bag, she relentlessly finds herself at his feet.
Unfortunately, often times we don’t know what’s good for us until we’ve been exposed to what’s bad for us. Women need to get their hearts broken and self-esteem perished once, twice or maybe three times to recognize what they deserve.
Thanks, jerks. Your emotionless charm and excessive lying serves to help women grow from being the naive girls they once were. You have paved the way for nice guys to finally get their shot. So really, it’s true: Nice guys finish last, but they do, ahem, finish.
Perhaps, behind every jerk lies an ex-girlfriend who made him that way. The same may go for women who have nice men eating from the palm of their hands.
It’s a learning process and the partners we meet, love and leave have all become our teachers. At the end of the day, once you have had your time of being the jerk, you’ll turn into the nice guy. You’ll be a keeper.
Men naturally have some behaviors that are all too male. This is what makes them men, well, that and the testicles that are in between their legs. And yet, the nice guy will apologize to a woman for nothing more than… being a man.
You don’t apologize for being a man… you should be embrace it!
For instance, a nice guy will tell a woman she looks hot… get embarrassed by the fact that he said that… and then apologize for it. That’s not something worth apologizing for. Apologize for things like leaving your smelly socks on the couch but not for telling a damsel, hey… you look ravishing tonight.